Before you think I’m an old fuddy duddy, I loved sleepovers as a kid. I used to beg my mom for them all the time…and now I know exactly how my mom felt about them. I should clarify: I used to love the idea of sleepovers, for staying over at a friend’s house, staying up late, giggling, talking…but the actual sleeping-over part…I hated. I never slept well, I hated sharing a bed, I hated the weird sounds that I wasn’t used to that weren’t in my house.
Now when my own kids have sleepovers, I just HATE them. Hate is a strong word, but I really don’t like them.
Our older boys are 9 and 6.5 and they rarely ask for a sleepover, it’s usually friends or cousins that concoct the idea and ask to have our kids for a sleepover or ask to sleep at our house. Mostly, I say no, and don’t feel the need to explain myself beyond that. But, if the stars align, and I can’t seem to find a reason other than how much I loathe them, I’ll let the boys have a sleepover, and then immediately regret it the next day.
Why I Hate Sleepovers
No one actually sleeps. I get it, playing the roll of the kid. You stay up late watching movies, eating snacks, playing video games…whatever. But when it comes to actual sleep, it just doesn’t happen. As our older boys get older, they don’t need as much sleep as they used to, but believe me, it still catches up to them, which brings me to my next point…
My kids are always cranky after. Lack of sleep, man. I tell you. Such a big impact on most people, especially kids (and me!). It might not hit immediately, but in the following days, I regret letting them do it. The crankiness, the attitude…and my kids don’t sleep in. EVER. They are early risers (in the 6 o’clock hour), always have been, and they NEVER make up their late nights with sleep-ins.
Other kids wake up too early. I’ve experienced this with both boys’ friends — getting up in the 5 o’clock hour and then me not being able to get back to sleep and being cranky for the rest of the day. It’s one thing if they know how to be quiet, but let’s face it — they don’t.
I posed my feelings on sleepovers on Instagram, and lots of people shared my sentiments. They said they’ve started having “late-overs” where the kids are allowed to stay late at a friends, but then they come home and sleep in their own beds. An interesting idea…but my boys still have not figured out how to sleep in and make up for staying up late!
I’m just fine to be “that mom”. Maybe during summer break, when we have no schedule or activities to be at they can have a sleepover, but I sure won’t be the one suggesting it!