The art of saying “no”, would be an extension of the title of this post. Currently, my plate is very full. With a quite a few shifts at the hospital, all the work that I put into this blog, the efforts of coordinating blog posts, making graphics and being a big part of the social media voice for Ask the Farmers, and trying to get motivation to do the same tasks for Aggie Days is just getting overwhelming. I’m also secretary of our playschool, I’m volunteering to help with our skating club’s carnival, I have done lots of work (and still have more to do) on my presentations that I’m giving this winter and spring, and I’m also getting mentally prepared for some conferences and travel dates in March and April. I’m just busy…really busy.
Late winter leading into spring last year and now this year, have proven to be one of my most busy times, especially on my website and others that I volunteer for. I was chatting with my husband and my mom about how daunting this spring was working up to be, and though I love all that I do, I decided “something has to give”. My mom gave me some wonderful advice and suggested that while the kids are young, put my volunteer efforts into them and into our community. I love being a part of the Calgary Stampede’s Aggie Days social media team, and though the commitment seems small, I do a ton of work behind the scenes that takes up hours and hours away from my other work and my family. I’ve done a lot of thinking about things and decided that that is what has to give right now. I want to put as much into agriculture education as I can, but for now it will have to wait. Sometimes I doubt my choices and keep thinking that it’s only “x” amount of hours and that I should be able to make all of these opportunities work…I just can’t. I would also love to volunteer for the Classroom Agriculture Program, but I just can’t add that to my list at this time either.
I already cut back on some online work this year by dropping out as host and coordinator of our Catch the Moment project 365 group and that has been a huge weight off my shoulders. I still participate in the group, but I’m not “the boss” anymore and it makes me feel like I can do this project at my own pace and not worry about what other people are doing and how they are doing it. Another huge thing for me is not comparing myself to other women. I see moms all around me in real life and online that have 2 or 3 more children than me and have way more on their plates than I do. God made me the way I am and I also recognize that some women thrive being very very busy, and I am one who recognizes my limits.
Sometimes we want to put our whole selves into every opportunity that presents itself…but sometimes we also just have to be brave and say “no”.