It was not that long ago that I shared my struggles of being a farm wife, but I assured you that there were far more good things than bad, and I’m here to deliver on that promise now. Today I have been happily married to my farmer for 7 years. On July 7, 2007 (that’s 07.07.07 for anyone who’s not paying attention), 7 years ago we said our “I Do’s” and rode off into the sunset…literally! My brand new husband surprised me with a horse-drawn carriage to take us to the community hall for our wedding reception.
We’ve so far survived raising a troublesome, energetic Siberian husky puppy together, we’ve built a house from the bottom up, we’ve had two healthy pregnancies which resulted in two amazing, healthy, active little boys and I know there’s many more things we’ll survive together. Here are just 7 of my favorite things about being a farm wife.
1. I Have Become So Passionate About Agriculture
I didn’t know a combine from a swather when I met Jay…dare I say really even when I married him. Now one thing I often say to people is that “agriculture is a passion I never knew I had”. Being engaged with the agriculture communities both online and off has brought me some of the most amazing opportunities in our life and it has brought amazing people into our lives.
2. I am Empowered
I am a very independent person by nature, but not being able to rely on my husband for any help at all for a good 3 months of the year during our really busy farming season plus the not-as-busy spraying season has made me even more self-sufficient. When I was at my lowest of lows with Braden as a first-time mom with none of my family or friends around to help, I just had to “suck it up” and get through it—and I did. Looking back now I am so thankful for these situations as they are shaping me into the wife, mom and woman I’m meant to be. I feel so empowered!
3. Teaching Our Children Important Life Lessons
We are raising the 5th generation on our farm and we are very proud of the heritage we get to teach our kids about. Jay’s great-grandfather bought this very land from ranchers with bushels of grain in 1929 and we still grow wheat on our farm to this very day. We are proud to pass on lessons that Jay learned from his father and his father before him, and so on to our boys. My dad was one of the hardest working men I knew and so my husband is now the hardest working man I know. The difference is my boys get to actually see how hard-working their father is working the land around them and it won’t be too long before they’re helping with chores. They will hopefully learn a hard work-ethic, the value of family, respect for the environment and a love for God growing up on the farm.
4. I am a Better Cook and Baker
One of the first meals I ever cooked for Jay when we were dating was a simple pork roast. I was SO nervous as I had never cooked a roast like that other than in a slow cooker. It came out pretty good and his review of the meal I worked so hard at was: “this is almost like a home-cooked meal!” It was one of those “bless your heart” moments, but clearly I wasn’t near the cook his mom is in his eyes. Needless to say, I don’t cook pancakes out of a box anymore, I bake multiple times a week during the busy seasons so the family has desserts for every meal and I can feed a harvest crew of up to 12 people without batting an eyelash.
5. Spending Lots of Time Outside
From mowing about 1.5 acres of grass on our acreage, tending to our new seedlings (which I cannot wait to see matured in, like, 10 years+!), planting and weeding my garden to shoveling snow in the winter—I love being outside and being a farm wife allows me to do that.
6. Making Our Schedules Mesh Together
I know that not all farm wives have this benefit, but I feel very lucky and blessed that we do. I’m a Registered Nurse, but I work on a casual/as needed basis and essentially schedule myself as there are shifts available and when I have time. Living rural, as I imagine most farming families do, we have no childcare options that permit me to have someone else take care of my kids when I work. This is why it works so good for us that when Jay is not-so-busy, he has the kids and when he is REALLY busy, I just don’t work and then I take over as primary parent again. I would also be lying if I didn’t say that I love having our winters extremely flexible and we will be joining my in-laws on Maui next January!
7. I Appreciate all of God’s Creation & Glory
God is to thank in all of this. He brought Jay into my life and the more time passes, the more our relationship evolves, it is undeniable to see how God has worked in our lives. Seeing the beauty in the every day, seeing how much hard work it takes to plant a seed and then leave it all to God to see how it grows. The weather that comes through, the good and the not-so-good—it’s all God and I’m so thankful for it all.
Happy 7th anniversary to my handsome farmer. Here’s to 7 more…and 7 more after that…and 7 more after that and beyond!