I know…I know. I’ve been counting down the days until I can sleep train Ethan. Now? I’m having second thoughts. Not second thoughts on the actual sleep training, more so second thoughts on the timing of it. He is successfully sleep trained during the day for his naps. He kind of did this on his own. He can successfully put himself to sleep and I know the length and frequency of his naps will just improve with age as Braden’s did. That is the key: he can put himself to sleep. He can soothe himself, I’m praising the Lord that he’s a thumb-sucker!
So why the second thoughts? He’s just four months old. Believe me, I’ve done the research in and out and I know that he can easily be sleep trained and sleep through the night at this age. He’s got more than 15 lbs on him and I know he could survive 10+ hours without eating. But then again, he’s only four months old, you know? I am tired. I wish I could crawl into my bed all day and night and just sleep, sleep, sleep. But he’s only going to be this little for so long and I don’t want to rush him. My biggest fear is cutting my supply. I have a huge supply, but I think I still need to feed, or at least pump, at night to keep my supply up…I don’t think I’m ready to wean him from his night feeds yet.
I would ideally like him to just wake up once at night (like we moms ever get our way, right?). Now he’s waking 2-3 times and boy oh boy…it’s “getting old”. Actually, I really wouldn’t mind if it just a matter of feeding him and putting him back to sleep. But because of his reflux (which has improved so much already), I have to make sure he’s asleep and not irritable when I lay him down or he’ll just get angry and puke. What was a 15 minute process at max with Braden is up to an hour long process with Ethan. That is what I’m tired of. I hate staying awake for up to an hour in the middle of the night. It wakes me up and I have a hard time getting back to sleep, get an hour or so of sleep, and then it’s time to do it all over again. If he ate, burped, and went right back to sleep….I’d be a happy mama! But, such isn’t the case.
I think I will start dreamfeeding him before I go to bed, as the first step in sleep training. More often than not he has been waking up at that time anyway, so if I can catch him before he fully wakes, maybe he’ll learn to sleep longer stretches. The odd time he’ll sleep past the 4 hour mark for his long stretch and give me a 6 or a 7 hour stint…but lately it’s been 3-4 hours. I have dreamfed him a few times and it hasn’t gone well. He doesn’t rouse easily and I always feel like I should burp him because of his reflux. Maybe if he is dead asleep, eats, and still sleeping I can lay him down and he’ll be okay?
These first four months have absolutely flown by, so waiting another few weeks or a month won’t be the end of the world. I full-on sleep trained Braden between 5-6 months which was the same time I started solids. I have no desire to rush Ethan into solid foods, so I think when he’s ready to start solids and is used to that, then I will full-on sleep train. In the meantime, I’ll just pray to the good Lord for longer stretches of night sleep!
I mean, really…how can you be upset at a face like that?